Geri C. is known throughout the Washington DC Metropolitan for dishing out some of the rawest sex and relationship advice. She first launched her sex and relationship column in 2006 with the help of Ray Choates, owner and founder of DC Music and Models. She received strong feedback from her readers for articles such as “Text Sexing”, “The Joys of Oral Sex”, and “Relationship Foundation”.
While I was on break from school for three weeks I decided to explore the avenues of dating. I’ve never been much of a dater. The reason why is because I believed that people were faking who they really were to impress their date. While that can be true at times there are many benefits to dating. I am fond of conversations. I finally realize that there is more to dicks that meets the eyes. All I use to care about is dick size and dick presence. I would have dudes send me a picture of their dick before I’d even go on a date with them. The only thing I can’t get back is time so I never want to waste it. I know myself. No matter how good everything else is; if the sex is lame then I hand you a pink slip. I can say “I do” to a man that can’t even get it up. I have stop requesting those pictures, but it doesn’t mean I don’t receive random ones occasionally.
Okay back to the dating.
Well I went on a few dates with about four or five guys. I felt each of them out over the phone. I don’t text men that I date. I text men that I want to fuck. If you want more you have to expect more. I am still dating these guys because they are consistent. Other didn’t get a second date. If I ask you “What do you like to do for fun?” and you say “Hang with my boys.” then we definitely don’t mesh. To date me you have to be a gentleman. I don’t accept anything less than that. You really are what you accept. I shouldn’t have to open the car door or any door for that matter. Needless to say, after all the good and bad dates there are two contenders left. The one thing I don’t understand about men is the fact that they think they are the only ones dating you. You have to ask me to date exclusively if you don’t want me to go on date with other guys. I use to put all my eggs and one basket, but I don’t anymore. I use to get a connection with a guy and get my hopes all up only to be told that infamous line “I’m not looking for a relationship”. I believe in keeping my options open at all times. I’ve assumed too much when it comes to men. Ladies we fall victim to this all the time. Be clear that if he doesn’t ask you to be his then you are not an item. The same goes for that one dude that you’re having sex with. You can’t get mad when he fucks someone else because there was never any exclusivity.
I’ve learn to keep my legs closed longer (even though I have occasional slip ups. I’m human) and speak to men more. I love learning people. Whether nothing comes out of it or not; I love learning different personalities. When dating you learn different characteristics that you may like. The first thing I had to acknowledge before dating is my patterns. Some patterns are meant to be broke. All the men I ever dated or had sex with struggled with something (keeping a job, baby mamas, child support, and the law). None of them had any good struggles (careers or degrees). I’ve been trying to deal with men that have good struggles. I relate to struggle because I’m on that path right now. Nobody said it was easy for me to work and attend school full-time, but I make that good struggle happen every day. Usually men that have bad struggles don’t know what they want; so they’re never looking for commitment. At least not until things are on the up and up for them. I totally get that. I will never wait for someone to figure out if they want to be with me or not. I feel like that should be a decision that comes to you naturally. It cannot be forced.
Needless to say I am enjoying the dating scene right now. If a relationship comes from it great; If not I will survive.