Geri C. is known throughout the Washington DC Metropolitan for dishing out some of the rawest sex and relationship advice. She first launched her sex and relationship column in 2006 with the help of Ray Choates, owner and founder of DC Music and Models. She received strong feedback from her readers for articles such as “Text Sexing”, “The Joys of Oral Sex”, and “Relationship Foundation”.
My spirituality has awakened me in ways that I didn’t believe were possible. For those who know me know that I am a big supporter of birth control pills. After being on the pill for the past six years I decided to stop taking them. I didn’t do it because I want to get pregnant. It was more so for me to be aware of my reality and choices. I used birth control pills in the wrong manner. It made me feel like my dumb choices in men could be justified because I knew I would not get pregnant. Since I stop taking the pill two months ago; I stopped having sex. I do enjoy sex, but I realized that I don’t want to have sex with anyone that I cannot see myself being with or having a child by. Since adopting this type of mentality I have not had sex. I seek more than being somebody’s booty call or one night stand. After cancelling birth control out of my life I can finally see that I deserve more than what I’ve been accepting in my life.
I can feel myself growing into the person I want to be. Practicing self control is a trait that I am learning more about every day. Self control is important and I didn’t have much of it while I was on birth control. Sex was so accessible that I almost let it kill my emotional spirit. It’s no secret that when a woman has sex they leave their emotions on your sheets. At this moment I don’t want to date because I’m more focused on getting back to me. I’m definitely in a selfish space right now. I’ve been nourishing my mind with books and meditation. Meditating is bringing my soul back to life. I never imagined that sitting still in silence could have such a profound effect on my life, but it has. I even meditate at work in my office and my co-workers look at me like I’m strange. It’s okay though because it is helping me become a better me. I feel as if I process people differently now. I use to care that people weren’t exceptive to my love. I no longer care. I know the love that I need the most comes within. My focus should be on loving myself more. That is what brings love into your life; having positive energy. People know when your sincerity is not genuine. When that foundation within you is cracked you can’t expect anyone to love you back. Become what you deserve before you set standards for a person beyond what you see in yourself.
My goal is to be more exceptive to the words people speak. They tell a story. I don’t want to look pass what has been said in hopes that I can change the language. What is spoken is meant. I understand that. I am responsible for what I feel. Nobody can tarnish that. I use to be very open to speaking the words I felt. I am not anymore. I’m more of a believer now. I truly believe that you don’t need to speak what is already felt. Feelings speak bigger volumes than speaking in my opinion.